3 ways to get rid of the ANTs eating your mind!
Ants are estimated to form 15 to 25% of the terrestrial animal biomass. They are almost everywhere on planet Earth, except in Antarctica and some other few remote locations on our planet.
For Antarctica, it is a matter of time because of global warming and climate change.
Another place where we can find some specific species of ants are in the human mind. You might think that I am crazy. I am not saying that you are wrong.
Yet just hear me out. The kind of ants I am referring to are those below, ANT as:
This kind of ant bugs our mind, clouds our judgment and feeds from our fear and insecurities.
I am almost 40 years old. 2020 will mark the moment when I would have spent half of my life in Dakar, Senegal and the other half in France.
I am doing ok job wise and budding my family. Yet I always have those questions in my mind, day in, day out:
- What if this is not ht elife I meant to live?
- Did I make the right choices so far?
- Why am I not rising at work?
- Is sitting in front of a screen in a cubical what I have to do the rest of my life?
- Is the money I have today enough for taking care of my family?
- Am I capable of achieving the great things I set my mind to?
- Why is my hard work not paying off?
- Am I being too impatient?
- Am I not working as hard I think I am?
- Why do I , sometimes, feel like I am casted out?
And the list goes on and on. Those questions are those ants, my ghost ants as I call them, that are knocking at the door of my mind everyday.
In this article I will share 3 ways I use to get rid of these ants from my mind, from my life. Spoiler alert: the techniques I will be sharing below are not one shot and that’s a done deal kind of things.
They are systemic ways that I have implemented in my daily routines and I do it every single day.
What are my anti-ants techniques?
The best way to get rid of an ant is the use another ant:
- A as Acting on my ideas
- N as Nurturing my soul
- T as Tailoring my reactions
This ain’t an Ant-Man story, yet it is worth an atomic dive.
A as Acting on my ideas
“Action kills fear.”
For me the worst feeling in life is the one of regret. I would rather apologize for trying out something and failing than reminiscing it in my mind with the bad taste of regret in my mind.
Not all my ideas are great. I will go as far as to say that most of my ideas are far from being great, full stop.
I tried to launch a Youtube channel. It has not worked as I expected.
I think I can tell stories. This is what I am doing right here. I am learning.
I think that I can be a leader that can bring an added value to my teammates. I am trying that out at work.
I believe that as someone who loves learning and sharing, I can be a coach and bring value to other people and my community. This is work in progress.
I wanted to get married to the person of my choice, not necessarily to the one that conforms to the beliefs of where I am from or what my parents or family members think I should be with. For years, I was afraid to follow my heart. I did it in 2017 and my world did not crumble. Yes, being married to a person with a different cultural and ethnical backgrounds has its own challenges. Yet it is not as devastating as I feared.
The point is that, in my life, I have been frozen in inaction because of fear. Yet each time I acted despite my fear, I was more fully me.
And the more I act, the more I cast out those ants out of my mind.
N as Nurturing my soul
“Don’t live your life through expenses. Live your life through experiences.”
I am a firm believer that we have a soul. I am not in a position to prove that we have souls. It is just a belief I am holding on to.
As we feed our bodies everyday with food, bad or good, most of the time we let our souls starve to death.
Sometimes, I see people who are like the Walking Dead characters. I myself have been that zombie at some point in my life. And as of today, I am even a zombie in some parts of my life.
Most of us are dead inside before our real death. We spend our life chasing material things in the pursuit of always more.
Yet deep down, we know that there is no amount of more that will be enough. If that amount existed, Jeff Bezos would have cashed out his Amazon stocks with more than $200 US Billions and just enjoy life.
There is no amount of money that will make me the happiest person in the world. There is no house big enough for me to feel like now I am “rich” rich. As long as I am not feeding my soul, feeding my body will only make me half full, no matter what.
I pray, I do journaling, I read, I reflect, every single day of my life. I anchor my soul to the stream of stories of great people, daily heroes who are having a positive impact on our world. This is how I nurture my soul.
This is another way of exorcising those demons- ants from my mind.
T as Tailoring my reactions
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”
Most of my life, I thought that integrity meant reacting to other people, not based on them or the situation, but based on my ideals, my view of the world and my own set of rules.
And all that did was create tension and frustration in my life. Those frustrations will transform into ghost ants and haunts me, day in, day out. Then it would be anger and resentment, the ants in chief, that would come knocking at the door of my mind. It would take most of my time and energy.
Those are the two most important assets in my life and they are priceless. And I was wasting them on anger and seeking revenge from those who, from my perspective, had done me wrong.
When my son was born, 2 years ago, I asked myself: Is this, the kind of behavior you want to leave as a legacy to him?
The answer is obvious: no. Then I asked myself the kind of attitude I can have to be the kind of a father that can walk the talk.
Eventually I come to the conclusion that life is not always about me. Life and people are not all against me. I cannot change people or have the same rigid reaction, no matter who is on the other end of the conversation.
I am working on letting things go more quickly, and moving on about my life. Journaling and sharing my feelings with my partner have helped me wake up.
Of course this shift will take some time as all old habits that we need to change. Yet the drive is here: walking the talk with my son and improving myself down the line.
By learning how to react, I am controlling the inflow of ants in my mind.
These are the 3 ways I use to get rid of the ants feeding from my time and my energy: action, nutrition and reaction.
This is how I transform my ants into positive food to feed my soul.
What kind of ants are bugging your mind?
What kind of coping mechanism did you come up with?
What are your anti-ants tips that have worked for you?
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