The 1 System to reach a true connection with anyone: Welcome to the SOLER system!

Ahmadou DIALLO ✪
6 min readDec 23, 2020
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Most of us will spend our whole life stuck in one system: the solar system. Yes, it is a beautiful system. It can provide us all with unlimited energy, the cycle of night and day, the water we need to survive on Earth.

Yet this system is just the ground layer to our basic survival in this part of the universe, our physical survival.

We all agree that we are more than our physical body. We all believe that we have an immaterial aspect of ourselves: a soul, a light, an energy being, or whatever shape or form we use to represent our inner selves.

How often do you discuss with someone, and then feel like you did not have a genuine conversation?

We all have been there. And with 2020, with all the Zoom, Meet, Skype meetings, we have never felt so much disconnected in an era when we never had so many tools to communicate.

In this article, we will discuss how to really connect with our fellow human beings, soul to soul, light to light, energy to energy, or any mix of the previous entities.

Indeed, as we are approaching the end of the year 2020, we see 2021 as a new hope. A hope to be able to reconnect physically with friends, family, and colleagues. We want to be able to get the strongest and more genuine conversations when given the possibility again, in this new world.

We will discover the 4 benefits of this new SOLER system.

Let’s first discover the planets behind this new SOLER system.

  • S (Square)
  • O (Open)
  • L (Lean)
  • E (Eye Contact)
  • R (Relax)

SQUARE, FACE SQUARELY — Imagine that you are having a conversation with another person. Imagine that there is a line running from your left shoulder to your right shoulder. Imagine that there is a dot at each end of that line. Imagine that the same principle applies to the other person. You are 2 lines with 2 dots. Your first step is to make sure that you are creating a square with that person when discussing with them, each dot representing the corner of that square.

Ahmadou DIALLO ✪

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