“Self-control is mastery. Right thought is mastery. Calmness is power.”
I was at the office. “Can you provide me with this deliverable?”, he said, putting my manager in copy of the email.
I said to myself: “Who the hell do you think you are, to ask me that?” Then I hit “control + enter” on my keyboard.
That guy who sent that irritating email is just leading a project where he needed some input from me.
The scope of the project has evolved. I was overloaded. I did not anticipate such a change.
“Why didn’t you tell me before?”, my manager told me. “Now I need to go fix it with the top management.”
I failed to make the right decision at the right time.
If this situation sounds familiar, please share it below. Don’t let me hang out dry.
I stumbled upon this video later that day:
Then I said to myself: “Well, my situation is not so bad after all!”.
This time, I did not hit “send”.
If we don’t want to feel weak, we have to implement the following week in our life.
MONDAY — SEE THE BIG PICTURE — We need to take a step back. We need to put things into perspective.
Often we are caught up in our daily activities that we don’t take time to step back and reflect.
Where are we? Why are we here?
Before getting caught on the edge of the cliff of our day, we have to take a helicopter view. We need to contextualize our actions into the bigger picture of life in general, our life in particular.
TUESDAY — CHANGE POINT OF VIEW — Often, we see things always from one point of view. We get frustrated that people see us as a “6” while we are confident to be a “9”.
We always seek to be understood first. We rarely get in other people’s shoes.
Are we missing another angle on the issue we are facing? Did we cover all the possible perspectives?
We must always seek to understand other people first before trying to be understood. We must build tactical empathy and leave no stone unturned.
WEDNESDAY — MASTER INTERDEPENDENCIES — On the heat of action, we might forget that we are not Elon Musk, living alone on Planet Mars. We are within an environment.
We value our freedom so much that we forget that in life, there are always interdependencies.
Who will suffer from this action? Do our enemies benefit from this?
Mastering dependencies gives us leverage over our reactions. As a result, we are more inclusive of our environment and the relationships around us.
THURSDAY — ANTICIPATE CAUSE AND EFFECT — In life, for every action, there will be a reaction. Effects are the answers of the universe to the causes we create.
There is no such thing as a cause without consequences.
What is the first-order consequence? What is second-order? The third?
Anticipating the effects of our actions will give us more agility and resilience. It is not about being as hard as a rock. It is more about being as flexible as water.
FRIDAY — ANTICIPATE EVOLUTIONS — Change is the only constant in life. Everything is prone to change.
We might want things to stay the same as long as they are in our favor. This is a heresy. We are here on Planet Earth thanks to the evolution process.
Are we prepared for the things to come? Are we ready for the low tide? The high one?
Evolutions will come. It is more about “when” than “if”. We need to assess some possible scenarios, for sure. And we must weigh them against their manifestation’s likelihood.
SATURDAY — IDENTIFY KEY DRIVERS — The Pareto principle states that 80% of the outcomes are the results of only 20% of the input.
We must not be caught steering the wheel in all directions in the hope to arrive at our destination, maybe if all the planets of the solar system are aligned.
Have we identified the key drivers? Are we leveraging the Pareto principle?
We must be fooled by the knowledge available. Yes, water is good. Yet we must not throw it in the sand. Knowing that fact is wisdom. Wisdom is all about knowing the right levers to be actuated to lift our world.
SUNDAY — TAKE RIGHT DECISIONS, AT THE RIGHT TIME — Playing an instrument is great. If we do not pay attention, we might play it solo while in an orchestra.
Making the right decisions is a good starting point. Taking them at the right time is called timing.
Are we aware of the set of decisions to be taken? Is now the right time to implement them?
We need to listen to the universe’s symphony. We need to learn to dance when it is our turn. Not before. Not after. Timing is the perfect tempo for life.
Had I implemented this week above into my life, I would not have overreacted when I received that email.
I should have kept calm, went into my helicopter, saw it from another angle, mastered the pathways, saw where the rivers are, wore a life jacket, jumped with my parachute open, pulled the right strings, and landed at the right spot of “This is not essential!”
What are your tips for mastering your life?
Are you leading your way?
Are you being diverted like water?
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