I remember one day sharing with a colleague such a list.
And his answer was: “Stop saying that by applying such and such a recipe, you will be successful. Each of us has its own definition of success.”
And he was totally right in the way that we all attach different things to what being successful means to us.
For some it is to just have enough to eat every day, for others it is having a lot of money or being famous, for some it is to have an impactful and meaningful life.
I agree with the heresy of defining “magic” recipes that you can apply to be successful. Indeed try searching in Youtube: “Top X things to be successful”, you will find more hits than the stars in our universe, or not. I did not count!
What most of those lists have in common is their lack of persistence over time. What I mean by that is that we live in a world of instant gratification, where we can do so many things and get rewarded very quickly without so much effort.
Hence a lot of people will give you quick recipes that you can apply to be successful instantly in life. They are the providers of magic pills that can give you instant success.
Yet those pills’ effects will fade away as quickly as they appeared. Indeed the mountains, the ocean or even the pyramids of Egypt did not appear overnight. And I am not even talking about our universe!
So I am not adding another recipe in the soup of magik lists that will make you successful.
What I answered to that colleague above was:” The list I am sharing with you is just a framework that you can use as a blueprint to build a sustainable and long lasting successful life on your own terms.”
Indeed I am a firm believer that long lasting success is built with long lasting ingredients.
Let me share with you what I am applying to my own life to create my own luck and make my life a successful one on my own terms.
I apply the 3P ingredients below in everything I do everyday, every month, every year.
Here are my 3 (black) magic P(rinciples) ingredients:
- P as Patience
- P as Passion
- P as Perseverance
1. P as Patience
As my #GranPa used to tell me: “Patience is Power!”`
And this is one of my life’s mantras. When I was younger (which I still feel I am), I wanted to get things very quickly.
I remember at the beginning of my professional career, I was pissed off because I did not get a position of a manager within my fist team. I only had 2 years of experience. Looking back, I clearly did not have the skills and the traits of a leader at that time.
Patience is one of the most great ingredients of success. Knowing that nothing worth remembering is built over night is a lesson of humility for me.
Jeff Bezos, the richest man on Earth in 2020 said it better than me:
“All overnight success takes at least 10 years.”
2. P as Passion
If I had to continue on the metaphor of cooking, passion is the gas, the heat you use to cook the meal of success.
If I think about people who are passionate about what they do, I think about all the great actors, musicians, artists, great athletes and the list goes on.
What those successful people have in commun is that they were passion driven. And I believe that this is what helped them continue when everything and everybody were telling them otherwise.
Of course, we are all passionate about different things. It does not always have to be in the art or the show business.
I am passionate about telling stories and sharing them with the world in all shapes and sizes. At work, I use vlogs to tell stories of my colleagues. In LinkedIn, I write articles about what inspired me to inspire other people.
I don’t care about the number of views or likes I have in my videos and articles. My passion to be a storyteller and the positive feedback I receive are what drives me and pushes me going.
My passion is that unlimited source of positive energy where I tap into to continue my journey.
3. P as Perseverance
Perseverance is to not stop at your first failed fillet-mignon. You should always embrace failure as part of your learning process.
For me failing is part of learning, it is part of life. As I said earlier, I was not happy to not have been selected for a manager position in my earlier career. I did learn from that mistake over time and I changed my mindset to always make sure to put myself in the position of the “preferable” candidate.
As of today, I am not a manager in AIrbus. This is OK for me. Because over the past years, I have developed myself to be a leader at AIrbus. I came to the conclusion that I could wait for someone to give me the title of “manager”, maybe if they feel like it, if I followed the carrot that was being dangled in front of me.
I decided that being a leader was something I have control over. You can be given the manager title, you have to earn the leader title.
To be a leader requires hard work and persistence over your whole life. It is not something that happens overnight. It is something that requires continuous learning, emotional intelligence.
It’s not a transformation. It is an evolution. Like the universe!
There you have it. My 3P(rinciples) that I use as a framework to create my own luck and to make sure that I am building a successful life on my own terms.
How do you define success in your life?
What are your principles for a successful life?
What actions do you perform daily to create your own luck?
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